Dear future son/daughter,
This is your dad (from 2016). I don’t know if you’ll ever get to read this letter but still then, weirdly enough, I suddenly got the urge to write this.
First of all I hope you are doing good, both physically and mentally, because with the changing time we can already see that children, especially in their teens, have a lot of problems mostly related to their state of mind. As for the physical health I am sure that your mom and I are doing a great job. And as for me I doing quite well and don’t have much to complaint about.
Anyways let’s get to the point; I want you to know that I am thinking about how I want our relationship to be from now only. I also want you to know that I am slowly planning everything so don’t worry about anything. This doesn’t mean that I am going to decide everything for you and ask you to do things as I please and rid you of your freedom of choice. But you should know that as a parent I will have some expectations from you, which I have come to learn is quite natural and harmless and you need not necessarily fulfill my expectations; it’s all up to you.
I want our relationship to be of siblings and not that of a parent and child. I want you to share anything you feel like sharing with me and not hesitate even a bit. That way we can be close to each other and we will be able to understand each other a lot better. If you are stressed because of your studies or because of your social life, share it with me, if you want to. I may not be able to solve everything but I promise you that I’ll do whatever I can so that you can tackle the obstacles in your life. I will always be there to listen to your problems no matter how big or small and always be by your side as you face them one at a time.
I want you to enjoy your life to the fullest and have no regrets. I know this is kind of a cliché. “When we grow old, we do not regret the things we did but we regret the things we were not able to do.” Whoever said this, hit the bull’s eye. I know I am still young and have a lot of time to do many things but there are certain things that will never happen in my life again and that’s the only regret I have as of now. So trust me on this one; I am talking from experience. Don’t worry about what other people will say about you or think about you even if they are your closest friends, as long as you are not doing drugs of course. Don’t be shy; make as many friends as you can. They may not be by your side all the time but it’s comforting to know that you have someone to turn to when you need any kind of help. If you like someone ask them out, the worst they can say is no (or not in a million years or you are ugly or I already have a boy/girl friend which are all just different forms of no).
Next thing I have on my list is to tell you that education is very important. You don’t have to top your class (although that would make me proud; no pressure here my love), as long as you learn something that will help you on the path you choose for yourself. What you want to become is all up to you as long as it makes you happy. Don’t worry about your parents not being happy with your decisions. From the outside, it would seem that parents are not happy with their children’s decisions but the truth is every parent will always be proud of their children. Whatever it is you choose to study or do, just make sure that you do it from your heart and give your hundred percent. Knowing that you put your everything into something will not only melt a parent’s heart but it will also satisfy your own soul.
Anyways I guess this is all I have to say for now.